If you find yourself here, you are more than likely are struggling with or someone you care about is struggling with addictive sexual behavior. Some might call it porn addiction, sex addiction, hypersexual disorder, or just cheating. Many men and women that we have worked with find themselves having problematic sexual behavior.
Issues With Pornography?
While not all have issues with pornography, many men and women have problems with compulsive pornography watching. You might find yourself watching pornography for hours on end throughout the day. Or while maybe it is not hours its multiple times a day as many times as you can get away with it. Many find themselves thinking about when they can look at it next. Sometimes porn is used to facilitate, but it seems to have become more of an escape from stress, boredom, and even loneliness.
Maybe your porn usage has shifted over time, into more extreme fiendish pornography. Many of our clients will state that they find themselves watching porn that is not something that they are typically attracted to or something that even want to try. Yet because porn usage has become a compulsion, it is something that can not stop. For some of our clients, pornography is just the first stop on escalating sexual risk-taking behavior.
Is Your Behavior Sexual Addiction?
Some of our clients have used porn as a stepping stone to more risk-taking sexual compulsive behaviors. This can include just sexting, chatting online, webcams all the way to having multiple affairs and seeing prostitutes. No matter how you sexually act out, your behavior is something that you enjoy but not something that brings long-term happiness. Most of our clients feel shame and guilt for their sexual behavior and build a life to hid this part of them from others. You can click here to take a sexual assessment to see if you have an issue with pornography or other sexually addictive behaviors.
How My Sexual Behavior Is A Problem
Many of our clients that seek out one of our services state that their compulsive sexual behavior has become problematic within their life. We find that for most people, the reason they seek out our services is that they notice a problem within themselves, or they or their partner notice a problem in their relationship.
You Notice The Problematic Sexual Behavior
Many clients we have worked with seek out services because they have noticed their behavior is out of control. Some get caught looking at porn at work, or while in public. The shame and embarrassment lead them to seek out help on why they act out the way they do. Some come in after the end of a relationship and know that one of the primary reason the relationship has ended is because of their behaviors. Others might face legal issues form public explores to more server charges. What we hear from many clients is that they notice the problem is when they would prefer to have their compulsive sexual behavior (pron, massage parlors, etc.) then have a meaningful sexual encounter with someone they care about. This drive to avoid healthy sexual activity creates the push for them to seek out help.
Your Partner Discovers Your Problematic Sexual Behavior
For many who seek out help form problematic sexual behavior it is due to the fact their partner just found out about it. Your partner might have just discovered that you look at progrpahy and hide it or it could be for the 4th time in 20 years. Since the most recent discovery of the betrayal of trust, you are looking for some way to repair. Other people seek out our services because their partner has found the text messages and sexting, or discover how they were spending money on prostitutes. If your partner has just noticed that you have a sexual compulsion problem, then there usually is high conflict and the possibility of losing the relationship.
No matter how you have come to discover of the problematic sexual behavior you find yourself asking “can I change?” You can overcome your unwanted sexual acts. Here at Richer Life Recovery, we offer 3 different ways to help those struggling with problematic sexual behavior.
Sexual Addiction & Pornography Addiction Online Recovery Program
This psycho-educational online course provides the fundamental steps for students to take control of their out of control sexual behavior. The recovery course is built on some 3 pillars of growth. The first pillar students learn about the addictive nature of sex addiction and porn addiction. How these behaviors affect the brain. Then learn how to start to re-set your brain from craving these addictive behaviors. The second pillar is focused on learning about your emotional drivers, answering the question of why you do what you do, what lead to you acting out in this sexual way. The last pillar is focused on repairing and strengthening all types of relationship in your life.
Students who complete all courses find themselves reflecting and learning how to connect in new ways. Developing a deeper understanding of themselves and their addictive sexual behavior. This coursework is developed for students to be self-paced in their own recovery work. Once a student completes this online work, they will find themselves further along in recovery then they even know they could be. From having a healthier relationship with themselves and others. Our students learn how to develop what a healthy sex life is for themselves.
In Person Process Group
Only Currently Available In Las Vegas NV
Using the workbooks from the online course this in person weekly intensive outpatient program provides a small group facilitated by a trained therapist. These groups offer more than education, but provide more in-depth insight and learning from others who are struggling with the same type of sexual behavior. These groups are only provided in the Las Vegas Area, please contact us here to schedule an intake session to start the group process today. (If you are a therapist and would like to offer a Richer Life Recovery group in your area, please contact us.)
Individual Therapy
Others who struggle prefer a personalized process that is catered to your specific acting out behaviors. Individual therapy offers in our Las Vegas offices provide our clients with support guidance and help that is required to overcome sexual addiction. If your shame and guilt is too intense to start a group, we have found that individual therapy can help start the healing process. Many of our clients who we have worked with individual have found strong recovery and a healthier relationship with their partners, friends, and family.
Those who have work with us find themselves deep in the recovery processes. We do not offer a cure or promises of never acting out again. Our clients have found that they can keep their addictive sexual behavior in control when are done with our programs. No matter if it is the online course, group work or individual therapy. Those who finish feel healthier and understand that recovery is a lifestyle.
Many men and women have found lasting happiness by working with us at Richer Life Counseling. From improving everyday life satisfaction to feeling more connection in their relationship than ever before, to being better friend and partner.
What Stops Most People From Seeking Out Recovery?
It is just too expensive, I can’t pay for recovery and couples therapy…
In our program, we talk a lot about building a lifestyle of recovery. Recovery is a mindset that is focusing on commit to doing something different, this means re-prioritized how you think about therapy and healing work. When you commit finically to a recovery process that includes our recovery work that our program provides you are investing to make long-term changes.
Those who we have worked with that commit for a month or two, that then leave the program so they can just do couples counseling, or they find themselves doing ok. Eventually return to our program feeling more broken than ever, with their relationship more damaged than before.
Recovery from sexual addiction and pornography addiction is a long-term process. Yet when you can stick with recovery, you will find that doing recover work was an investment in yourself, and in your relationship leading to a Richer Life. You can check out our blog post on the real cost of porn addiction that shows our treatment program cost nothing compared to the actual cost of porn addiction.
This isn’t really an addiction!
You can google that there is no such thing as sexual addiction or pornography addiction, and you will find many websites or articles that state that is the case. You will also see a wide array of sites and articles that state it is an addiction. Human sexuality is complicated.
Yet if your problematic sexual behaviors, from looking at porn, sexting, to mutual sexual partners could be harming you. Putting you at risk for sexual transited inflections, dating your relationship with your partner and family, and creating a secret life that you keep from most people. The question isn’t if sex addiction is real or not the question is does your problem sexual behavior creating ha unhealthy lifestyle for you. If you are having adverse effects form unhealthy sexual behavior then it doesn’t matter if we call it an addiction, numbing or problematic it is time to make a change.
It is too hard to stop so why bother?
Our program is designed for you to have a healthy sex life. We are very sex-positive and want all people to have a healthy fulfilled sex life that is focused on meeting their biological desires and emotional needs. Stopping porn use, stopping actin gout sexual is a difficult journey, yet once you start on this journey, you will find healthy sexuality.
Those who we have helped with our program, have found a more meaningful healthy sex life. We have been told how they find more enjoyment and meaning in sex with their partner once they have left the numbing sexual behavior behind. Yes, we know how hard stopping looking at porn can be, we know how hard it is to stop acting out sexually. Yet we know that once you find a lifestyle of recovery, you will find happiness and joy in sex you might have never experienced before.
Make A Change
Now is the time to start recovery from your pornography addiction or sexual addiction. We offer 3 ways to begin recovering the first way is to our online course. Richer Life Recovery online course is a psycho-educational program that focuses on all aspect of recovery. This online program helps porn addicts and sex addiction stop unwanted sexual behavior, and learn how to form healthy sexual behavior. You can read more about our online program here.
For those who live in the Las Vegas area and are ready to take recovery from an online program to group or individual therapy today is the day. When you are a member of a local Richer Life Recovery group, you have full access to our online program, along with the support of others who are seeking to stop unwanted sexual addictive behaviors. Contact us today to schedule an intake session to get started with recovery today.
Please contact us with any questions that you might have. If you are not ready to commit to starting our online recovery program, we have a 10 session recovery jump start email series that you can sign up for before. This 10 session on how to start recovery will offer help and guidance in learning more about the recovery process.